posted on Sunday, November 29, 2015 @ 11/29/2015 04:00:00 PM
Salam Everyone. I am back here again with super long entry of My Labour Story. Feeling fresh and much better than the day I just gave birth. I am currently serving my 30 days Stay-At-Home confinement. Thankfully, there's wifi, smartphone and laptop to keep me sane and occupied during this period.
I've been drafting my labour story since last week however time didn't permit me to post this entry. We are adjusting to this new pattern of lived. Now, Baby Sleep, Ummi also sleeps.
Ok, now, where shall I begin the story of my experience giving birth to my baby boy.
Baby A estimated due date was on 9 November however he's enjoying his moment in my tummy, floating away, refusing to come out see his ummi & ayah. Doctor mention that by 13 November 2015, if there isn't any progress of burst of water bag or blood spotting or contractions, I would have to get labour induce the following day.
After much reading on Induce Labour, I told the man to bring me out and took a stroll in Singapore so that I would't get to be induce. We went Little India twice, Marina Square, Suntec City, Orchard Road and YES! Lots of walking means its Natural Induce.
Above all walking, the man took me out to eat all kinds foods I think I will crave for it during my confinement period. Speaking of which, I can't wait for confinement to be over cause I simply miss going out and smell the fresh air. Not to mention all jamu, obat periuk and pills. You know how I HATE to swallow the pills.
HOSPITAL BAG
We went to shop for BagPack for the man. He settle down with Herschel Bagpack which is big enough to insert our discharge from hospital outfits, baby rompers, swaddles, mittens & socks & baby cap. OH! not to forget your toiletries. Well, actually, you don't need to bring so many things as the hospital will provide most of items such as disposable panties, maternity pad. Limit to 1 bag as there will be gifts from guests and the hospital.
PREPARATION
Back to preparing myself for labour. The week before I head to the hospital, I was telling my man how nervous I was and all the mixed feelings I'm having like am I strong enough to go through this labour process, will I be able to be a good mother, can I overcome this pain and so on. You name it. First time mummies, I believe you feel me.
THE DAY
I was schedule for Induce Labour on 14 November 2015 at 7AM. That explain how restless and sleepless both me and my man were the night before. I had planned to sleep by 10pm that night however when you're nervous, you won't be able to sleep peacefully. We ended up sleeping past midnight.
0500 HOUR - We woke up early that morning. Took my shower, had our prayers, drink milo, clean the house as I won't know when will I be officially be back to OUR HOME. I missOUR home already. OH! We would like to thank my husband colleague, Jufri & Wife for volunteering to fetch & sent us to hospital early in the morning.
0700 HOUR -
We reached KKH Hospital and settle down at Basement 1, next to the vending machine and have breakfast. YES! Air Selusuh don't forget. YOU NEED THAT. REASON to have breakfast before checking in is that once you are in Delivery Ward, you ARE NOT ALLOW to have food or drinks. So, if you have 12 hours in labour, 12 hours with no food & drinks. OK! maybe a sips of water and the nurse will probably give you milo and biscuits just before they burst your waterbag.
0715 HOUR - Register ourselves at KKH Hospital Level 2; Delivery Ward. GOSH.. the entire room was freezing cold, MIND YOU. Please ask your husbands to bring along Jackets or sweater - THEY NEED IT. While waiting for our registration to be complete, plenty of things run through my mind. I was like, BABY, THIS IS IT. YOU AND ME, LET'S DO THIS.
Positive vibes is what I told myself to be. Kun Faya Kun. Let's go with the flow. No Pain No Gain. The nurse wanted me to push me on a wheelchair but I refused as I am still able to walk by myself. Reached our private delivery room and I was told to change my hospital gown outfit which is SUPER BACKLESS.
I had this straps and a circle-like-device tie around my belly which is to detect the baby heartbeat to make sure baby is doing well inside me and not feeling stress. That strap this is one super uncomfortable thing on my belly.
0815 HOUR - The doctor came in and start to poke a needle-like-tube on my left wrist. YES, I AM AFRAID OF NEEDLES. Thankfully, my veins were clearly seen. I was preparing to swore at the doctor or nurses if they are unable to poke correctly.
Also, thanks to the doctor, it was a fast poking moment. Then they have this tubes connecting to the needles where all the water drips & anti-biotic are insert. I was given milo & biscuits and was told to rest. I explore the hospital bed and the TV channels. They have HBO. It would be a plus point if they have AXN or FOX CRIMES to keep me more distracted.
0845 HOUR - My Gynae came. My Doctor Suzanna was there. I heard her voice & my oh my, you have no idea how glad I was. She check my BP and blood sugar and how many CM i have dilate. By then I was 3cm dilate and she proceed with bursting of my water bag.
For Your Info, Government Hospital, usually the nurses and midwives will be there throughout the entire delivering process. The Gynae will only come it to do the cleaning part and stitches, if needed. That is why I didn't expect my gynae to be there that morning and BOY! I was super glad, happy and according my man, I have this confidence to proceed with what come may in the next few hours.
The moment my Gynae burst the water bag or induce my labour, I felt this gush of water underneath me. Well, Of course I am not able to see it as I was laying down on the bed with the needle drips and strap belts and feeling all uncomfortable. The next few moments, my Gynae left me to rest and the nurse told me to pass urine using this thing that looks like a bowl. Initially I can't do it and the nurse decided to put the Urinary catheters on me. NO! Not another thing to be inserted in me. Told her that I would try to do it again later.
0930 HOUR - Another drip was insert in me - the CONTRACTION DRIP. This is when the game starts. Initially, the contraction didn't feel like what it was supposed to be. It was bearable. It felt like a mild stomach. The nurse monitor my contraction moments and said the contraction came in like 5 to 7 minutes apart. I wasn't able to feel it at that point of time. We decided to off the light and try to take a nap. Obviously, I wasn't able to do so. Therefore, resting was just the option to me. In between that, I had my Kurma Ajwa & Air Selusuh to keep me power up and hunger down.
1200 HOUR - I was still 3cm dilate and I was like.. what?! I didn't dilate further. I was afraid of what may come next. Stroke my belly and talk to Baby A telling me him not to stress, stay calm and come out when the time is there. Of course apart of me was already be like.. baby..go further down baby. Doctor say you are down but your head is still high. Let's do this together.
I wanted to get out of the bed and do some stretching or swaying but nurse strictly do not allow. SIGH. Body starts to ache and I'm wriggling myself on the bed trying to find the perfect comfortable position.
1600 HOUR - I was 5cm dilate by then but this time, I was telling myself that I have gone this far and I have another 5cm to go. I am OFFICIALLY in ACTIVE LABOUR.
You need to get 10cm dilate only then we can start pushing the baby out. However, this is the time whereby the contraction was strong and it comes every 3 to 4mins apart. It was WOW & I was trying to catch my breathe and at the same time bearing with the extreme pain. I was like pulling the side bed and thank god, it was not detached if not, I guess it would end up in my hospital bill.
We went to shop for BagPack for the man. He settle down with Herschel Bagpack which is big enough to insert our discharge from hospital outfits, baby rompers, swaddles, mittens & socks & baby cap. OH! not to forget your toiletries. Well, actually, you don't need to bring so many things as the hospital will provide most of items such as disposable panties, maternity pad. Limit to 1 bag as there will be gifts from guests and the hospital.
PREPARATION
Back to preparing myself for labour. The week before I head to the hospital, I was telling my man how nervous I was and all the mixed feelings I'm having like am I strong enough to go through this labour process, will I be able to be a good mother, can I overcome this pain and so on. You name it. First time mummies, I believe you feel me.
THE DAY
0500 HOUR - We woke up early that morning. Took my shower, had our prayers, drink milo, clean the house as I won't know when will I be officially be back to OUR HOME. I missOUR home already. OH! We would like to thank my husband colleague, Jufri & Wife for volunteering to fetch & sent us to hospital early in the morning.
0700 HOUR -
We reached KKH Hospital and settle down at Basement 1, next to the vending machine and have breakfast. YES! Air Selusuh don't forget. YOU NEED THAT. REASON to have breakfast before checking in is that once you are in Delivery Ward, you ARE NOT ALLOW to have food or drinks. So, if you have 12 hours in labour, 12 hours with no food & drinks. OK! maybe a sips of water and the nurse will probably give you milo and biscuits just before they burst your waterbag.
0715 HOUR - Register ourselves at KKH Hospital Level 2; Delivery Ward. GOSH.. the entire room was freezing cold, MIND YOU. Please ask your husbands to bring along Jackets or sweater - THEY NEED IT. While waiting for our registration to be complete, plenty of things run through my mind. I was like, BABY, THIS IS IT. YOU AND ME, LET'S DO THIS.
Positive vibes is what I told myself to be. Kun Faya Kun. Let's go with the flow. No Pain No Gain. The nurse wanted me to push me on a wheelchair but I refused as I am still able to walk by myself. Reached our private delivery room and I was told to change my hospital gown outfit which is SUPER BACKLESS.
I had this straps and a circle-like-device tie around my belly which is to detect the baby heartbeat to make sure baby is doing well inside me and not feeling stress. That strap this is one super uncomfortable thing on my belly.
0815 HOUR - The doctor came in and start to poke a needle-like-tube on my left wrist. YES, I AM AFRAID OF NEEDLES. Thankfully, my veins were clearly seen. I was preparing to swore at the doctor or nurses if they are unable to poke correctly.
Also, thanks to the doctor, it was a fast poking moment. Then they have this tubes connecting to the needles where all the water drips & anti-biotic are insert. I was given milo & biscuits and was told to rest. I explore the hospital bed and the TV channels. They have HBO. It would be a plus point if they have AXN or FOX CRIMES to keep me more distracted.
0845 HOUR - My Gynae came. My Doctor Suzanna was there. I heard her voice & my oh my, you have no idea how glad I was. She check my BP and blood sugar and how many CM i have dilate. By then I was 3cm dilate and she proceed with bursting of my water bag.
For Your Info, Government Hospital, usually the nurses and midwives will be there throughout the entire delivering process. The Gynae will only come it to do the cleaning part and stitches, if needed. That is why I didn't expect my gynae to be there that morning and BOY! I was super glad, happy and according my man, I have this confidence to proceed with what come may in the next few hours.
The moment my Gynae burst the water bag or induce my labour, I felt this gush of water underneath me. Well, Of course I am not able to see it as I was laying down on the bed with the needle drips and strap belts and feeling all uncomfortable. The next few moments, my Gynae left me to rest and the nurse told me to pass urine using this thing that looks like a bowl. Initially I can't do it and the nurse decided to put the Urinary catheters on me. NO! Not another thing to be inserted in me. Told her that I would try to do it again later.
0930 HOUR - Another drip was insert in me - the CONTRACTION DRIP. This is when the game starts. Initially, the contraction didn't feel like what it was supposed to be. It was bearable. It felt like a mild stomach. The nurse monitor my contraction moments and said the contraction came in like 5 to 7 minutes apart. I wasn't able to feel it at that point of time. We decided to off the light and try to take a nap. Obviously, I wasn't able to do so. Therefore, resting was just the option to me. In between that, I had my Kurma Ajwa & Air Selusuh to keep me power up and hunger down.
1200 HOUR - I was still 3cm dilate and I was like.. what?! I didn't dilate further. I was afraid of what may come next. Stroke my belly and talk to Baby A telling me him not to stress, stay calm and come out when the time is there. Of course apart of me was already be like.. baby..go further down baby. Doctor say you are down but your head is still high. Let's do this together.
I wanted to get out of the bed and do some stretching or swaying but nurse strictly do not allow. SIGH. Body starts to ache and I'm wriggling myself on the bed trying to find the perfect comfortable position.
1600 HOUR - I was 5cm dilate by then but this time, I was telling myself that I have gone this far and I have another 5cm to go. I am OFFICIALLY in ACTIVE LABOUR.
You need to get 10cm dilate only then we can start pushing the baby out. However, this is the time whereby the contraction was strong and it comes every 3 to 4mins apart. It was WOW & I was trying to catch my breathe and at the same time bearing with the extreme pain. I was like pulling the side bed and thank god, it was not detached if not, I guess it would end up in my hospital bill.
1900 HOUR - This moment was even more crazier than just now. Contraction came 2 to 3 mins apart. It was so painful that after the contraction which last about 10 to 15 seconds, I have to catch my breathe and get ready with the incoming contractions. The doctors and nurse has urge me to take Epidural cause I was so in pain and they were afraid that I could no longer push or have the energy to do so when the time comes. I told them I make do with the Laughing Gas.
This Laughing Gas, I don't know - it didn't really help in many ways. It gives me about 10% less pain when the contraction comes.
My man by then was restless seeing his beloved wife in pain. Usually, this kind of pain I would be crying buckets but I can't cry at all. I would ended up with block nose and I can't do that when the contraction comes. I need to have clear breathing air.
My man was next to me assisting me with the laughing gas and be there with each contraction. My man was the one who calms me when the contraction comes and inform me that the contraction is ending soon.. hang in there.. hang in there. I would cringe and stretch my legs with each contractions and it feels like I'm going to have calf & leg cramps very soon and urge the man to massage the legs to let the blood flows.
To have your husband by your side during your pregnancy delivery period is SUPER CRUCIAL. My man was like, I have no words to describe but I am so thankful and blessed he was by my side throughout the delivery process.
By this time, I could not access to my phone nor does my man. My dad was outside the registration delivery ward to pass dinner for my man but of course, at this point of time, there is no way he could eat dinner nor was he able to answer calls.
1930 HOUR - My Gynae came and checked. I was 8cm dilate. I AM ALMOST THERE. I AM ALMOST THERE. YES! I was glad that from 5cm, I dilate to 8cm. That was consider quite fast. That also means contraction comes even faster. I was gasping for air most of the time & again, the laughing gas was like a saviour at that moment. By then, I didn't take notice of the time and it felt like.. it's night already! My Gynae said we can deliver the baby before 10pm that night. I told myself, THIS IS IT BABY! The moment we have been waiting for!
2100 HOUR - The contraction was even more pain than it was before. I felt the urge to pass motion and the midwives says its the contraction that makes me want to push the baby out. I kept babbling to the nurses I want to go toilet and pass motion. I want now.. means now.. then the nurse called my Gynae that I was ready. While waiting for her, we practice to push. Like how you should breathe, your chin to your chest and push like you giving a big poop out.
My mom has advice me not to scream when pushing but sometimes you can't help it. Not that I scream so loud like the entire whole hospital can hear, I let out a small scream cause it made me felt a slight relief.
On the other side, as I was busy trying to catch my breathe, wait for the contraction moment and began to push, my man, my gynae and midwives was the one who were all screaming out loud and motivate me to push harder and harder.
It took me about 30 mins to almost an HOUR to push you out Baby A. I felt like we were in Medan Perang with Doctor Suzanna screaming for Ummi to push harder.
2153 HOUR - the next moment I heard was my man goes ALLAHU AKBAR loudly and Baby A cries. ALLAH.. I was so relief and of course, I cried. 15 hours of Labour. MasyaAllah..
ALHAMDULILLAH, Baby A was a healthy baby with the weight of 4.052 kg. I was schocked, trust me. I didn't expect my baby to be 4KG. My Gynae was like "ahh.. baby favourite food McD eh.. 4KG and that too Normal Delivery. You are one lucky mom. Not many people can deliver 4KG via Normal Delivery and that too with no Epidural."
You have no idea how ecstatic I were at that point of time. Knowing that I have safely given birth to my baby. He was healthy and I am doing well. We had skin to skin moment shortly while the man stepped outside to inform the family members that it was a healthy Baby Boy.
Baby A was crying with his eyes open widely when midwives put him on my chest. I recite the Surah Al- Fathiah & Ayat Qursi and he stops crying and looks calmly. The power of Surah Al-Quran. Never underestimate that.
He searched for me and our eyes met. I cried. These moments - indescribable. The man came back to ward and did the Azan and Tahnik. We cried. We are a family now.
Thank You ALLAH for this bundle of joy. It was worth every pain.
